The grief is very real
By Fiona Brook
Edited by Sadie Harley, reviewed
by Robert Egan
For one in five people, losing a pet has been more
distressing than losing a human loved one. New research has revealed that 21%
of those who experienced both types of bereavement found their pet's death
harder to bear..webp)
ICE Queen Kristi Noem has no such regrets
The findings challenge how society views pet loss.
It's often dismissed as "disenfranchised grief"—a type of mourning that
isn't socially recognized or validated in the same way as other bereavements.
Yet for most pet owners, their animals are family. A
2025 survey by the animal charity RSPCA found that 99%
consider their pets part of the family rather than "just a pet." On
Instagram, #dogsarefamily alone has 3.4 million posts.
The latest study of 975 British adults revealed something
striking. Around 7.5% of
people who'd lost pets met clinical criteria for "prolonged grief
disorder"—comparable to rates following many human deaths. The work
is published in the journal PLOS One.
Grief typically involves a range of emotions including
anger, denial, relief, guilt and sadness. Prolonged grief disorder, however, is
more severe—the psychiatrists' diagnostic manual, the DSM-V, defines it as "intense and persistent grief
symptoms which are not only distressing in themselves but also associated with
problems in functioning" lasting 12 months or more after a loss.
Currently, only human deaths qualify for this diagnosis. But
the research, led by Philip Hyland of Maynooth University in Ireland, found no
measurable differences in how prolonged grief disorder symptoms manifest,
whether the loss involves a person or a pet.
Pet loss actually accounted for 8.1% of all prolonged grief
disorder cases in the study—a higher proportion than many types of human
losses. Those who had lost a pet were 27% more likely to develop prolonged
grief disorder symptoms than those who hadn't.
That figure sits between the rates for losing a parent (31%)
and losing a sibling (21%). It's higher than the rates for losing a close
friend or other family member.

















