A small number of loud bigots (and at least one school committee member) pound away at the rights of transgender, gender-diverse, and transitioning students.
From the amount of time I spend attending and covering the Westerly School Committee and hearing the nonstop anti-transgender rhetoric, one might think that this is somehow a major issue in the town. The best I can tell? It’s not.
Instead, a small number of Christian nationalist bigots, chief among them Westerly resident Robert Chiaradio, cycle through the same litany of imagined grievances like a skipping record. Chiaradio, I think, gets so much airplay because one of the members of the Westerly School Committee, Lori Wycall, keeps adding agenda items to the meeting with the intent of somehow circumventing Rhode Island state law and opening the door to abusing the rights of transgender students.
To understand what follows, you need to know that at the
November 19 Westerly School Committee meeting, the minutes of the November 5
meeting were amended so that quotation marks were placed around the term
“biological males” as used by Robert Chiaradio during his comments. This was
done because the term is demeaning to trans people and has no scientific
meaning. [See this footnote.1] Chiaradio opposed the quotation marks.
Robert Chiaradio: A speaker asked this body to
amend the minutes of the November 5 meeting by placing quotation marks around
the term “biological male” as I used it at that meeting to describe males who
are confused about their sexual identities. The speaker deemed the term
derogatory.
I ask anyone in this room with a modicum of common sense,
what is derogatory about this term - “biological male” - as used in reference
to the above-mentioned population?
Is it unpopular with some people? Yes, it is.
Does it describe the group in a manner in which it doesn’t
wish to be described, or those who support it don’t wish it to be described?
Yes.
Does it belittle, diminish, or disparage anyone in the
group, or show a critical or disrespectful attitude toward anyone in this
group? No, it does not.
The term is truthful, honest, and sincere to all
populations. I submit to you that calling males identifying as females,
“females,” belittles and diminishes real, honest-to-goodness females and
disrespects them. That’s what gets lost in all of this. And your desire to
minimize and manipulate the truth. Not only are people like myself (who, like
it or not, are truth-tellers) disparaged, lied about, threatened, et
cetera (which I don’t care about), but our real females, Westerly’s
real girls, are diminished and marginalized, as was the case in 2024 … where a
“biological male” played against Westerly’s girls - an incident that this
superintendent and many in power continue to deny.
Later in the minutes of the November 19 meeting, during the
consent agenda, Mr. Killam, in true gutless fashion, I might add, made a motion
to amend the November 5 minutes to, as the speaker requested, place quotation
marks around the term “biological male.” Without Mrs. Wycall and Mr. Jackson,
the motion passed five-to-nothing.
Ms. Dunn even said, We will do our best not to reinforce
negative language.” Negative language? I ask you, what is negative, Ms. Dunn,
about the term “biological male” being used to describe males who are confused
with their sexual identities? Is it better to affirm a lie and call them
females? There is only one way to describe them, and that is the truthful way,
but the majority of this committee and its superintendent have an aversion to
truth, and have for at least the last five plus years. To you, it’s not the
truth that matters. It’s not the law that matters. It’s your agenda that
matters. I’m not surprised at Ms. Goathals or Ms. Dunn or even Mr. Ober, but
Mr. Nero, you’re just a flat-out disappointment who’s afraid to do the right
thing.
Mr. Killam, I cannot figure you out. I think your heart is
in the right place, but you lack courage. You’re a pleaser. You’re not a
leader. You actually amended the minutes because you didn’t want this committee
associated with a truthful term. What is derogatory about the truth? Truth is
not subjective; it is not malleable. Truth is not debatable. Truth is absolute.
It is objective. It is immutable and irrefutable. It’s not my truth or your
truth, but the truth. If you people up there on the dais care about the
population being discussed here, you will stop affirming this lie and help them
get the mental health counseling they need, like I am doing. You know what the
truth is, but the truth finishes a distant third with this crew, behind agenda
fulfillment and cowardice. Shame on those of you who perpetuate this lie. Thank
you.
Committee Chair Leslie Dunn: Is there anyone
else who would like to address the committee? Seeing none, I will ask if
committee members wish to respond.
Committeemember Timothy Killam: Okay, so first
of all, let’s talk a couple things... I made the motion to [put the term] in
quotes because it was [Robert Chiaradio’s] statement - that’s what the
discussion was.
If you’re going to ask me if I feel that the term
“biological male” or “biological female” is derogatory, my answer is “No, it is
not.” And if you actually dig deeper, as I did today, you kind of end up in a
rabbit hole. I went to the Rhode Island Department of Education (RIDE)’s
guidance on transgender and gender nonconforming students - I know that’s a
whole other battle - but in numerous places, RIDE lists students as “biological
male” or “biological female.” It’s just a term our department of ed uses, so I
don’t think it’s derogatory.
It may be used in a derogatory manner in some instances, but
the overall term “biological male or female,” no, I do not feel that it is
that.
I want to make it clear that this is not why I changed the
minutes, not at all. I changed them because it wasn’t clear what the statement
meant. But I can tell you that maybe I was wrong, because you could have just
watched the video and seen it for yourself. Very simple. Maybe that’s what we
need to do: start scaling back our minutes. [For example,] tonight, “Mr.
Chiaradio spoke, discussion ensued.” That’s all [the minutes] need to say. You
can watch it on video if you want to.















