If
you suffer from Binge Eating Disorder, someone telling you to eat an apple
instead of a brownie isn't going to help.
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If you looked at me, you might not be able to tell that I’m
obese.
According to the measure of my Body Mass Index (BMI), I am. Slightly.
I don’t wear plus-sized clothing, I’ve only got one chin, and
you wouldn’t mind sitting next to me on an airplane.
Most people who are considered overweight or obese in United
States are a lot like me. In fact, even though 69 percent of
adults were officially overweight or obese in 2012, only about 15 percent are
so obese that they’re expected to suffer increased mortality.
My brother Adam was one of those people. He suffered from Binge Eating Disorder, a diagnosis psychologists didn’t even recognize until 2013 — five years after his death.
During his life, my brother was mired in shame about his body
and his eating. He hid his binges from our family. He lied about it. He told us
he never ate fast food, but a glance at his bank statements after his death
showed he was a regular at every drive-thru in town. And he made large
purchases.
An estimated 3.5 percent of women and 2 percent of men share my
brother’s problem. Two-thirds of them are obese.
That includes a close friend of mine. Unlike my brother, she
doesn’t keep her eating a secret. She hates it. She wants to stop. But she
feels compelled to frequently eat beyond feeling full. And I don’t think she
knows why.
Others who binge eat have shared that they eat so much in order
to block out their emotional pain. They want to fill their bellies until it
hurts, so that the physical pain fully consumes them and their emotions
disappear.
Some research suggests that binge eating might provide a high similar to smoking marijuana.
Often, public discussions of obesity focus on educating
Americans to help them “make better choices.” If you’re suffering from Binge
Eating Disorder, someone telling you to eat an apple instead of a brownie isn’t
going to help.
Hounding people about their diets doesn’t address the root
causes of eating disorders. It’s about as effective as telling an anorexic that
she’s too skinny and telling her to eat a big steak.
In fact, shaming someone with Binge Eating Disorder for his or
her weight could even make the problem worse.
Not all obese people suffer from Binge Eating Disorder, but it’s
good to be aware that some do — especially since shame compels many
sufferers to keep it a secret. And be compassionate. Because only through
compassion and empathy can we help people facing this problem find their way
back to health.
The clock ran out for my brother, but I wonder what would have
happened if he’d found help. What if he knew he didn’t have to be ashamed of
his binges? Or of his body?
Now that Binge Eating Disorder is an officially recognized
diagnosis, we should change our national conversation about diet-related health
problems to address it.
If you think your loved one or a friend might be suffering from
this problem, offer real help — not diet advice. And for those of us who aren’t
medical professionals, the best help we can give might be love, empathy, and
listening without judging.
OtherWords
columnist Jill Richardson is the author of Recipe for America: Why Our
Food System Is Broken and What We Can Do to Fix It. OtherWords.org.
