By Harry Rix in Rhode Island’s Future“My guiding principles in life are to be honest, genuine, thoughtful and caring.” Prince William
When you look in a mirror, what do you see?
No, you don’t see yourself. You inhabit a body—not a mirror. No,
you see a projection of yourself. Similarly, we often project ourselves upon
others.
Are you diligent and honest? Then you tend to trust others
easily: You project on them the traits of diligence and honesty which come
naturally to you. If you are a private person, you likely believe others also
keep secrets. Or if you often tell small lies, you may readily conclude others
are deceiving you.
Name the trait or motivation. We tend to project these on
others. This is familiar and natural. The opposite attributes are foreign to
us, so we find these more difficult to believe.
The consequences of these beliefs can be disastrous, for ourselves and others. As a landlord, for example, I lost several thousand dollars when I rented to a few tenants despite signs they were untrustworthy. We all need to widen our vision—to see reality—or our mistakes will multiply.
How can we apply this wisdom? How can we challenge our mistaken
projections?
Shortly after graduating college in 1977, I discussed farm
subsidies with Mark, a church friend. I had just completed a study of economist
Milton Freedman, agreeing with his tenet that the free market alone should
determine a person’s income. So I opposed farm subsidies.
Mark was shocked. Why would an otherwise caring Christian
approve of farmers going bankrupt when farm prices crash? My friend thought I
was heartless, having lost both compassion and common sense.
Mark was right.
Why did I fail to care? Despite my business degree, I was
ignorant. I knew nothing about farming. Even more pertinent: I had adopted an
ideology which shut out the experiences of others.
I also projected on to bankrupted farmers my history of
obtaining work easily. I did not consider the hardship of bankruptcy, the
trauma of families losing their homes, nor farmers’ ordeals when seeking
another profession.
I needed to widen my world. I needed to listen to others’
experiences. I needed to be thoughtful.
Similarly, many leaders project their limited experiences upon
others. One politician, “Edward,” laments that so many receive food stamps. Why
not? His family never needed food stamps. Why should anyone else?
Instead of projecting his economic abilities upon others,
however, Edward could consider their experiences.
What about the millions who earn a living yet, due to low wages, experience the
continuing agony of poverty?
What about the many millions of seniors dependent
upon social security and food stamps for survival? What about the many children
who, due to food stamp cuts, have some days each month with little or no food?
Edward projects his economic strengths on others. He concludes
the US needs to spend more on the military, so our nation should spend less on
food stamps. This is a false choice. One does not exclude the other.
Those in need should not be denigrated or starved. Moreover, the
US military currently spends as much as China and Russia—as well as the next
ten countries combined.
“Supporting our troops” instead of supporting those needing food
stamps is ironic: The pay of low-ranking service people requires $100 million
in food stamps and $1 billion in subsidies at military grocery stores in 2014.
Severe reduction of commissary subsidies brings hardship to many military
families. For many, food stamps remain a necessity.
Edward is not alone in projecting his food prosperity on others:
A plethora of political leaders hold a variety of heartless viewpoints.
Sometimes, due to our own projections, we too have uncaring
positions. What is true for these heartless politicians is also true for you
and me: We need to widen our world; we need to listen to others’ experiences;
we need to be thoughtful.
Rev. Harry Rix is a retired
pastor and mental health counselor living in Providence, RI. He has 50 articles
on spirituality and ethics, stunning photos, and 1200 inspiring quotations
available at www.quoflections.org.